
BY LAURA MOSES
You can listen to love songs, you can watch movies about epic romances, and you can hear stories from your friends about their relationships, but there’s nothing quite like the real thing. We learn about life through trial and error and there are some love lessons you learn through experience that couldn’t be learned any other way. Even if you’ve heard the phrases “timing is everything” or “you’re better off alone,” they might not ring true until you experience them. Of course that doesn’t mean you have to be on the sinking Titanic, trapped by a beast in a castle, or kiss your long-lost lover in the rain to know what being in love feels like!
A friend of mine says relationships happen either for a reason or a season, meaning that there’s a specific lesson for you to learn or this person is in your life while you’re going through a particular phase. Part of dating, being in love, and having relationships is learning about yourself. While heartbreak, arguments, and breakups are horrible, no good, very bad things that can happen to you, they’re not pointless. Experience is how we grow, so read on below for seven love lessons you’ve gotta see to believe.
When you’re in the thick of hearbreak it might seem like nothing will make you feel better — not even retail therapy, wine, or more wine. But the old saying is true and time does heal (almost) all wounds. Of course every breakup is different, but one commonality of dealing with loss and grief is that the only way to get past it is to go through it. Not even Waze can find a shortcut to getting over heartbreak. And while it might seem like you’ll never feel better or want to date ever again, there is light at the end of the tunnel and you will get to the other side… eventually. Of course, you don’t need to suffer through it alone — therapy is an option that can help you process your heartbreak and grief.
Sometimes a person might seem absolutely ideal for you on paper, they check all your boxes, and you two seem like the perfect couple. But just because someone’s personality résumé is stellar doesn’t mean they’re right for you. If you feel like everything is just fine but not great, you can’t force the relationship to improve. No matter how hard you try, you can’t force real love to spark where there just isn’t a connection.
This seems like a major bummer, but it’s true — love isn’t all you need to have a happy relationship. If you love someone madly but they aren’t good for you, the relationship won’t work. If they treat you poorly, or have self-destructive habits, no matter how much you love them, you won’t thrive in the relationship. It’s tempting to think that if you just have love, the other issues in your relationship will eventually sort themselves out, but some problems just can’t be solved, no matter how much love you throw at them. Read More

I’ve dedicated my life to helping people better understand what love is, and to create amazing relationships in their lives. And it all started with me realizing that I wanted to know how to do those things, too.
After all, nobody wants to be mediocre when it comes to love. But I didn’t know if I could do any better.
So, to avoid that terrifying fate, I decided to travel across the country and interview couples who are experts at creating legendary, epic love, and figure out what they do differently than everyone else.
After three years, I’ve learned a lot of lessons in love. Some of them were not so easy, including going through my own devastating breakup after calling off my engagement. But I know there’s hope. I’ve seen it!
1. Love is a choice you make every day.
You don’t just choose to love someone on your wedding day, and then you’re set for life.
Consciously making the same choice to love your partner every single day is incredibly powerful. Nothing has the ability take away your power to choose love.
2. Don’t be afraid to be the one who loves the most.
Most people never get to experience the love they dream of because they are scared to take the risk to be the one who loves the most.
It’s easy to play it safe and comfortable. It’s natural to surrender what you want in the long-term for what is so easily accessible now. It’s hard to risk hurting yourself or someone else for the chance of creating something incredible.
3. Love isn’t fair, and that’s what makes it so beautiful.
Sometimes, we are just lucky enough to find a person who will stick by our side and love us even when we think we don’t deserve it. If you find someone like that, hold on to them.
4. Love is not happiness.
If you’re looking for an unlimited, constant supply of happiness, love is not for you.
Love is, however, purifying, inspiring, motivating, and an incredible source for personal growth and improvement. Happiness in love is created as a result of the progress we make as individuals and as couples. Read More

By Elizabeth Scott, MS
Loving kindness meditation (LKM) is a popular self-care technique that can be used to boost well-being and reduce stress.1 Those who regularly practice loving kindness meditation are able to increase their capacity for forgiveness, connection to others, self-acceptance, and more.
This technique is not easy as you are asking yourself to send kindness your way or to others. It often takes practice to allow yourself to receive your own love or to send it.
Benefits of Loving Kindness Meditation
During loving kindness meditation, you focus benevolent and loving energy toward yourself and others. There are many well-documented benefits of traditional meditation, but as with other techniques, this form of meditation takes practice. It can be difficult and sometimes leads to resistance since the average person is not used to this level of giving and receiving love.
Emerging research specifically on LKM is also helping social scientists to understand the unique benefits that it provides, although most study authors note that more research is needed.
For example, a study published in the 2018 July/August issue of the Harvard Review of Psychology provided an overview of scientific evidence related to loving-kindness meditation and other compassion-based interventions.2
Study authors concluded that LKM may be beneficial in the treatment of chronic pain and borderline personality disorder but further evidence is needed to confirm these promising effects.
Some published studies have noted that this meditation technique may be useful in the management of social anxiety, marital conflict, anger, and coping with the strains of long-term caregiving.1 And other research has suggested that loving kindness meditation can enhance the activation of brain areas that are involved in emotional processing and empathy to boost a sense of positivity and reduce negativity.
While more research is needed to confirm the full extent of LKM benefits, there are no risks or costs associated with the practice. So if you choose to give this meditative practice a try, you’ve got nothing to lose except for a few quiet moments in your day.
How to Practice Loving Kindness Meditation
There are different ways to practice this form of meditation, each based on different Buddhist traditions, but each variation uses the same core psychological operation. During your meditation, you generate kind intentions toward certain targets including yourself and others.
The following is a simple and effective loving kindness meditation technique to try.
Carve out some quiet time for yourself (even a few minutes will work) and sit comfortably. Close your eyes, relax your muscles, and take a few deep breaths.
Imagine yourself experiencing complete physical and emotional wellness and inner peace. Imagine feeling perfect love for yourself, thanking yourself for all that you are, knowing that you are just right—just as you are. Focus on this feeling of inner peace, and imagine that you are breathing out tension and breathing in feelings of love.
Repeat three or four positive, reassuring phrases to yourself. These messages are examples, but you can also create your own:
May I be happy
May I be safe
May I be healthy, peaceful, and strong
May I give and receive appreciation today
Next, bask in feelings of warmth and self-compassion for a few moments. If your attention drifts, gently redirect it back to these feelings of loving kindness. Let these feelings envelop you. Read More

The heart is both physical and spiritual, the center of our being which connects us to everything. Our spiritual self longs to connect with divine love. That longing for connection creates a vacuum and if we are not careful, we will attempt to fill it with things that dont belong in the heart. This is toxic and causes our hearts to become seemingly blind and deaf to everything around us while attaching to worldly distractions.
Instead of finding joy and love in helping a stranger in need, some find that to be a burden and would rather seek joy in spending money or career. Nothing wrong with being successful or wealthy, but that is not the root of happiness and it can distract us from what really matters.
God is the ultimate love and ultimate light, that light is in everything all at once. The trees, the wind, the difficult and the easy; one can find The Light in everything if their hearts are listening. Love can act as your compass in life if you allow it. This doesn’t mean blindly go after other humans you are attracted to. While companionship love is important and will be used down below in the meditation exercise, it is not the ultimate love which I am referring to.
No matter what name you assign to God, no matter if you are agnostic or unsure about faith, most can at least agree something deeper and larger than ourselves puts a spark in your heart sometimes and you feel it. THAT, that something, is The Light, The Fashioner of Forms, The Forgiver, The Protector, The Most Loving, The All-Encompassing. Call it whatever you like, I call it God.
Meditation is used by a variety of belief systems and often advocated for in the use of mental health. It is a universal concept that connecting to your internal self and becoming more mindful is beneficial.
Here are a few benefits of meditation, but please understand many more exist.
Often people talk about quieting your thoughts during meditation/prayer or focusing on your breath as a way to quiet your mind. The simple fact so many talk about quieting your mind should raise the question of what are you listening for if not thoughts? Is it the tranquil and serene feeling that comes from silence? That is not nothingness, that is your heart listening and connecting to divine love. That communication is not with words, often words cannot give this experience full justice.
Meditating upon the heart means to focus on love. We were created out of love, we were designed to love and we will be unfulfilled and searching for more when we deny ourselves a connection to divine love. In the simplest explanation, God is love and love is from God. God/Love encompasses all and can be a force of healing.

BY JON KABAT-ZINN
As the pace of our lives continues to accelerate, driven by a host of forces seemingly beyond our control, more and more of us are finding ourselves drawn to engage in meditation, in this radical act of being. We are moving in the direction of meditative awareness for many reasons, not the least of which may be to maintain our individual and collective sanity, or recover our perspective and sense of meaning, or simply to deal with the outrageous stress and insecurity of this age.
By stopping and intentionally falling awake to how things are in this moment, purposefully, without succumbing to our own reactions and judgments, and by working wisely with such occurrences with a healthy dose of self-compassion when we do succumb, and by our willingness to take up residency for a time in the present moment in spite of all our plans and activities aimed at getting somewhere else, completing a project or pursuing desired objects or goals, we discover that such an act is both immensely, discouragingly difficult and yet utterly simple, profound, hugely possible after all, and restorative of mind and body, soul and spirit right in that moment. It is indeed a radical act of love just to sit down and be quiet for a time by yourself.
It is indeed a radical act of love just to sit down and be quiet for a time by yourself.
Loving-kindness, compassion, sympathetic joy and equanimity are rigorous meditation practices, used for the most part to cultivate one-pointed concentrated attention, out of which the powers of these evoked qualities emerge, transfiguring the heart. Just naming these qualities of heart explicitly and making their role explicit in our practice may help us to recognize them when they arise spontaneously during mindfulness practice. As well as to incline the heart and mind in that direction more frequently, especially in difficult times.
These practices, and in particular loving kindness, can often serve very practically as a necessary and skillful antidote to mind states such as ferocious rage, which may, at the time of their arising, be simply too strong to attend to via direct observation unless ones practice is very developed. At such times formal loving-kindness practice can function to soften one’s relationship to such overwhelmingly afflictive mind states, so that we can avoid succumbing completely to their energies. It makes them more approachable and it makes them less intractable.
But with practice direct observation itself, on its own, becomes the embodiment of loving-kindness and compassion all by itself, and is capable of embracing any mindstate, however afflictive are toxic. And in the seeing of it and the knowing of it—in open-hearted non-reactive, non-judgemental presence—we can see into the nature of the anger or grief for whatever it is. And in the seeing, in the embracing of it, in the knowing of it, as we have seen, it attenuates, weakens, evaporates, very much like touching a soap bubble or like writing on water. What emerges in such moments is nothing less than loving-kindness itself arising naturally from extended silence, without any invitation because it’s never not already here.
In a dignified sitting posture or lying down whatever you prefer, as you feel ready, bringing your awareness to the breath and the body as a whole breathing and resting here for a period of time, establishing a relatively stable platform of moment-to-moment awareness, riding on the waves of the breath.
And when you feel comfortable resting with the flowing of your breathing in this way picturing in your mind’s eye, to whatever degree you find it possible, someone in your life who loves you, or who loved you unconditionally. Evoking and giving yourself over to feeling the qualities of the selfless love and kindness they accord you, or accorded you, and the whole aura or field of their love for you—right here right now breathing with these feelings, bathing in them, resting in the warmth and radiance of their heartfelt embracing of you just as you are. Or drinking in the experience that you are unequivocally and unconditionally loved and accepted as you are—without having to be different, without having to be worthy of their love, without having to be particularly deserving.
In fact, you may not feel particularly worthy or deserving. That does not matter. It is in fact irrelevant. The relevant fact is that you were or are loved. Their love is for you, just as you are. For who you are now, already, and perhaps always have been. Allowing your own heart to bask in these feelings, to be cradled in them, entrained into them. To be rocked moment by moment in the swinging rhythmic beating of the loving heart of another. And in the cadences of your own breathing, allowing your heart to be held and bathed in this way, by the warmth of this radiant pulsing field of loving-kindness. Read More

By Yerin Kim
Becoming a great kisser takes practice — even your favorite celebs have awkward kiss stories. Unfortunately, you have to live through some makeout mistakes and sloppy smooches before you evolve into the amazing kisser we all aspire to be.
But even if you know you’re a good kisser, you might be wondering what type of kisser you are and what bae thinks about your makeout seshes. Are you adventurous and playful or are you a little more shy and reserved? What kissing positions are you into? What’s your fave type of kiss? Would you ever kiss someone on camera? Based on your answers to some of these questions, find out what kind of kisser you are, so you can lean into your style and find a partner who’s compatible with you in the kissing department.
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By Hannah Orenstein And Danielle Fox
Looking for a jam to call your own? Put on your dancing shoes and take the quiz below to see what song perfectly describes your love life right now!
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By Kristin Koch And Danielle Fox
When you have a crush, feelings get magnified by 100. You may have thought they were cute before, but now they’re GORGEOUS. Or maybe their jokes that you use to laugh at now leave you on the floor in a fit of laughter. That’s just what infatuation does to you, it makes it hard to get a real sense of your feelings. Sometimes you might really be falling for someone, and other times, you’re just in love with the idea of the person.
So, to help you sort out your true feelings and find out if you’re actually in love, or if it’s simply a big ‘ol crush, take this quiz to help you determine what’s really going on.
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By Hannah Orenstein And Danielle Fox
Crushes can make you wish you were a mind reader. You just NEED to know: do they like you as a friend — or more than a friend? You don’t want to ruin the friendship by making a move without knowing, but you can’t stand the nerve-wracking tension. Debating whether you should admit your feelings to your crush? It’s important to weigh things out. Are you prepared to lose this person as a friend if it doesn’t work out or are you not willing to let a possibly great thing pass you by? Those questions only make deciding what’s your next move harder, but don’t worry. This quiz might help you decipher what your crush’s true feelings are, so you can decide if you’re ready to make a move.
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