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Love the Power


There are still too many questions to answer before understanding the motive behind the mass shooting at the Route 91 Harvest Festival in Las Vegas. A lone gunman opened fire with automatic weapons from the 32nd floor of his Mandalay Bay Hotel, raining bullets on jubilant, defenseless concertgoers. This was a well thought out intentional massacre of innocent people.

So where do we find the love in this?

An attribute of unconditional, or unlimited love is that it protects. You might think, “What about all those people who were killed and wounded? They were not protected. Where was love for them?”  This is a valid and difficult question, and one for which I don’t have a short or clear answer.  However, what I would like to do is recognize love’s protection that kept this horrific event from being even worse.

Thankfully, the police located the remote and unknown location of the shooter before he was able to carry out the extent of his plans.  Considering the arsenal of weapons amassed in his hotel room, the death toll could have been significantly higher.  Not only were officers dispatched to the hotel, but off-duty officers attending the concert risked their lives to identify the location of the shooter.  While others ran away, these courageous men and women ran toward the gunfire, and some lost their lives or were seriously injured because of it.  They swore an oath to serve and protect.  Their love for others was their driving force.  They were quick and professional because they devoted their lives to this oath and this love.

Not only were career law enforcement personnel willing to risk their lives, but stories are emerging of individuals whose love for friends or family, or sometimes even strangers, led to incredible acts of heroism.  Some used their bodies as human shields to prevent strangers from being hit by bullets. Others ran unprotected into the gunfire to lead people to safety, or transport the wounded and dying to the hospital.

One way this unconditional love has been defined is, “The desire to put the well-being of another ahead of one’s own.”   This is how they acted.  They acted from a place of love.  Because of this, though many lives were tragically lost, thankfully many more were saved.

Lastly, the gunman. We do not know yet, and may never really understand, what drove someone to such an insane act of evil.  The only explanation I can fathom is he must have been feeling a great deal of pain within himself to be willing to inflict this type of pain on others.  I pray for those who end up suffering the consequences of another’s internal anguish, but I also pray for the person going through it.  I pray that unconditional love guides them through whatever mental pain they are experiencing, so they can find peace within themselves and not desire to hurt others.

If you know someone who is going through something difficult, show them unconditional love. If you know someone who is contemplating hurting themselves or others, do what is most loving and get them help.  You may never know how many lives you could be saving.

My prayer is that someday, no matter how deep and dark things seem to be, love will be the hero that saves us all.

Be Kind to Your Employees, They Will Thank You For It

We all know how important it is to recruit the right talent for your company. Employees are our greatest asset.

By Isabel Dimaranan


They’re the minds that run the corporate machine, and the best of them keep our company on top. So, once we have them in our nest, how do we ensure that they stay?

As one of our favorite CEOs, Richard Branson, says, “Train people well enough so they can leave, treat them well enough so they don’t want to.”

Managers need to do their part in order to keep employees at their best, but it’s not always an easy feat. A large global survey of employee attitudes toward management suggests that a whopping 82% of people don’t trust their boss. Another staggering statistic is that over 50% of employees quit their jobs because of their managers. If treated improperly, even the best employees disengage and lose their potential. This in turn leads to higher turnover rates, which can cost us greatly.

How can you engage your employees and prove that you’re trustworthy as a leader? There are many ways, but let’s focus on one simple solution that’s often overlooked.

Kindness. It doesn’t cost a dime to be kind to your employees, and your company will benefit from it in more ways than imagined.

According to findings from The Energy Project and the Harvard Business Review, the three leadership actions that impacted employee performance the most were treating employees with respect, recognizing and appreciating them, and being positive and optimistic.

Exercising kindness can produce positive results in both our personal and work lives. It encourages people to see us as trustworthy and genuine individuals. When we instill kindness to motivate our employees, it can have an even greater reach. If you treat your employees with kindness and respect, your employees will feel valued, inspired, and are more likely to engage in open communication with their leaders. As a CEO, you reap the benefits of kindness by creating a more connected and reliable workforce, while setting up a legacy for a positive work culture. Read Full Article

Volunteering may be good for body and mind

There’s something gratifying about volunteering. Whenever I work a charity event—which I try to do with some regularity—I often get more out of it than I give.

Stephanie Watson, Executive Editor, Harvard Women’s Health Watch

I already knew about the mental health benefits of volunteering. Studies have shown that volunteering helps people who donate their time feel more socially connected, thus warding off loneliness and depression. But I was surprised to learn that volunteering has positive implications that go beyond mental health. A growing body of evidence suggests that people who give their time to others might also be rewarded with better physical health—including lower blood pressure and a longer lifespan.

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Being Kinder to Others

Contrary to popular belief, it isn’t always easy to be kind to others. So practice a little kindness in your daily life whenever possible.

  1. Being a kinder person is not a simple or easy process. Know that it takes time and effort to change your impression.
  2. You can’t fake kindness. Genuine interest equals genuine connections. Be honest and sincere with others.
  3. Being nice is not the same as being a doormat. You can disagree with people and still be kind about it. Practice.

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Kind Things To Do

KIND THINGS TO DO . . . for yourself, and for others

The easiest way to spread kindness is to smile at the people you make eye contact with each day. At work, at home, when shopping, wherever you are. Family, friends, associates, strangers, anyone you make eye contact with. Vicki Bennett, in her book I’ve Found the Keys, Now Where’s the Car?, tells us “Wherever you go, remember to take your smile with you.” (There are situations where a smile may be misinterpreted, so common sense should prevail). Your smile not only brightens the day for those you give it to, it makes you feel good too, so it’s a double whammy!

If you can think of any more kindnesses, please contact us ch@kindness.com.au or write to The Australian Kindness Movement, PO Box 1, The Oaks NSW 2570, Australia, and we will add them to our lists.

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12 Signs You’re ‘The Rock’ Of Your Friend Group

“The rocks” are the strong and silent types.

AKA solid and dependable.

Are you level-headed in a crisis? Do you hide your anxieties or feelings from others? Meet your emotional type: “The rock.”

Emotional types are personality categories based on how you interact with other people and yourself, particularly in times of stress. The concept was created by psychiatrist Judith Orloff in her bestselling book, Emotional Freedom: Liberate Yourself from Negative Emotions and Transform Your Life, based on what she observed with her patients in her practice. There are four styles, which include the intellectual, the gusher, the empath and the rock.

Of course, human beings are complex. No one person fits into a box and it’s likely you’re a mix of different traits. But it’s still fun to investigate which characteristics apply to you and which one’s don’t in order to better understand yourself and how you relate to others.

Suspect you’re the rock in your group? We chatted with Orloff to get some more insight into this specific emotional type. Read on below to figure it out.


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How We Can Kill Terrorism With Kindness

Displaced people fleeing from Boko Haram incursions into Niger carry boxes of oil during a World Food Programme (WFP) and USAID food distribution at the Asanga refugee camp near Diffa on June 16, 2016. Issouf Sanogo—AFP/Getty Images

Jacob N. Shapiro I Jan 05, 2017

Shapiro is professor of politics and international affairs at the Woodrow Wilson School of Public and International Affairs at Princeton University, co-director of the Empirical Studies of Conflict Project and author of The Terrorist’s Dilemma: Managing Violent Covert Organizations.
Recent attacks in Istanbul and Berlin remind us that preventing violent extremism must be a policy priority for the incoming Donald Trump administration. The last decade has shown that our good intelligence will never prevent every terrorist attack, and our aggressive reactions will never kill or scare away every potential terrorist. But we can do a better job of stopping the terrorist plots in the first place. The way to do this is to get communities that produce and harbor attackers to view America and the West more favorably.

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